This is a book review of QBQ! The Question Behind the Question by John G. Miller.
Here’s the gist. Personal accountability is a powerful tool to get things done, solve problems, and improve quality of life. Personal accountability comes from asking yourself a few key questions. Questions such as:
“What can I do about [such and such problem, challenge, goal, etc.]?”“How can I achieve with the resources that I have available?”“What am I learning?”“How can I apply what I am learning to [such and such problem, challenge, goal, etc.]?”“How can I learn from this experience?”
The idea is that a more thorough self-evaluation will open up possible solutions to problems or barriers that hinder progress and growth, as well as gaining an important skill for stress management.
Stress is a result of our actions. Self evaluation that leads to greater personal accountability may reduce stress because a thorough evaluation may reveal that some of the stressors are uncontrollable. One can learn to let go of those stressors and seek to focus on what can be controlled. Such as, reactions to challenges and adversity. Choose how to feel about stuff rather than allowing stuff to dictate the feelings.
This could be helpful with problem solving or improving team work because targeted self-evaluation can help reveal what an individual has control of and what options for action they have. For example, asking the question, “What can I do about dinner today that will give me a mindful eating experience?” will help focus into planning a mindful eating experience for dinner. It is a very easy concept to apply.
In summary, this book is about a tool for improving life satisfaction by using carefully targeted questions for self-evaluation to accomplish goals, work through barriers, solve problems, and improve relationships. Look for it in your local public library.